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Why can’t you be like other sites?

It’s the one complaint about Control Your Cash that we receive most often: where are the first-person stories about your struggles with income and debt?

1) There are several thousand other blogs that already memorized that riff and can play it by heart. We wouldn’t be bringing anything original to the party. Besides, this isn’t a place for self-indulgence. We don’t give a damn about the details of your finances*, and don’t expect you to care about ours. Or anyone else’s but your own.

We used to think that other people’s Facebook photos were the Ultima Thule of human boredom. But they’re captivating compared to hearing a personal finance blogger yammer about how he’ll now pay off his student loans 3 nanoseconds faster thanks to this handy new money-saving method he discovered for making your own duct tape. Also, the Sunday paper is full of coupons for your next grocery shopping trip.

2) No struggles to speak of.

Oh, does that sound condescending? Then would you feel inadequate if Danica Patrick told you she has no trouble negotiating traffic at 160 mph? How about if the chick from Evanescence said she could easily hit notes in the whistle register?

We’ve spent our adulthoods doing the prudent, common sense thing and seeing where it leads. So far, it’s working. At least more so than buying pet clothing and paying for tax refund anticipation loans might have.

You want commiseration? Start drinking or become a sex addict. Meetings in the church basement, Tuesdays at noon. No crosstalk, please.

Good. Now that we’ve got the children out of the room, join us for something worthwhile. Two things we try to do here:

-explain financial concepts that people presumably want to know about, or should, but don’t.
-show how not being financially idiotic can pay tangible rewards. And occasionally, show instances where you might think you’re doing the smart thing but aren’t.

If this sounds dictatorial, it isn’t. No more than your 3rd grade teacher was when she explained how multiplication works. Look, there’s no secret to gaining wealth. The mantra, again:

Buy assets, sell liabilities. Do this often enough, measure the results, and if you do nothing else you’ll get rich in spite of yourself.

Financial self-sufficiency is nowhere near as simple as “spend less than you earn”, but it’s not as complex as you think, either. That wedding you’ve been fantasizing about since you were a little girl? Unless it involves only you, the groom, a justice of the peace and a visit to IHOP afterwards, it’s a liability. Sell (i.e. don’t buy) it. The matching funds your employer offers for your 401(k), which will give you more tax-free income when you retire in exchange for a few seconds of incremental effort today? That’s an asset. Buy it.

Almost everything in your financial life fits into one category or the other – if not individually, then cumulatively. The bachelor’s degree in women’s studies is a liability. The interest-bearing student loan to pay for it is a meta-liability, and an obscene waste of money. The used DSLR camera that you can pick up from a highly rated eBay seller and is indistinguishable from a new one that’s twice as expensive? That might not be an asset by our definition, but the difference in their prices is. Buy the camera, assuming you’ll use it.

If you want patently obvious advice and feel-good pabulum, Google “personal finance blog” and you’ll find it. If you want to be challenged and inspired, stay here. Read the archives. And let us teach you how as much as you’re willing to digest about how money works (and how it doesn’t.)

*Dang. That should have been the subtitle for the book.

**This post is featured in the Carnival of Wealth #5**

Meet your role model, Part I of II

So not the right photo

If we told you someone was 29 and made $32,000 annually, and that he regularly went on exotic vacations (Italy, Alaska), was sophisticated enough to invest in gold exchange-traded funds and complicated Treasury instruments, and speculated about being a stay-at-home parent one day and retiring at 57, would you think he was:

a) bad at math;
b) dealing heroin;
c) Controlling His Cash?

His name is Brandon. We read his comment on Frugal Dad regarding the alleged expiration of the middle class (it’s comment #32) and were so impressed we asked him about his own financial details. The conclusion? He’s everything you need to be. If he can do it, you can. Brandon’s extraordinarily detailed, but that beats the hell out of the opposite.  Again, it’s about buying assets, selling liabilities, and making conscious choices. Here’s some of his story:

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I’m single and childless. Four years ago my credit cards were maxed, I had a car loan, and was miserable in a low-paying job waiting tables. Rather than go the easy route with bankruptcy, I closed the cards, negotiated the interest rate and paid everything off with an emergency budget in under a year.

I took advantage of Indiana’s individual development account program, which also has federal funding. It gives you a large match in funding, financial literacy training, etc. for 4 years. You can double fund – my program took 2 years. You can spend the money on education, start a business with it, or buy a house.  I turned $1600 into about $10k with this program.  I also resumed my business degree, which I continue to work on very part-time. It’s not a priority since it serves no purpose to my job.

I started working in a higher-paying job, which pays $32k/year including overtime and holiday pay. Most importantly, I like it. I work with delinquent and abused kids.

I turned the overtime into savings, kept the emergency budget, and saved a few higher-than-usual tax returns. When I get my degree, it’ll be on my financial terms because I want it, not because I need it. Lack of a degree hasn’t held me back from any job I’ve ever wanted. I have lots of friends with $20k-100k in loan debt: I don’t know a college-educated friend or family member who doesn’t have significant debt. The only ones who earn a lot more than me are an engineer and a lawyer, and the lawyer’s expenses dwarf mine.

Last June I bought a condo for $103k, with all new appliances. I ended up with a homeowner’s warranty, $5k in the form of a down payment lien which is forgiven after 5 years. The house was immaculate, reasonably updated considering it’s 30 years old, and had a low monthly condo fee of $100.  I have units on either side, so my electric and gas bills are tiny.  I put exactly 20% down, avoided private mortgage insurance, and have a mortgage payment of about $480 (excluding low taxes and insurance).  I also took advantage of a state program, and end up having a quarter of the mortgage interest I paid refunded to me each year.

Once I controlled my credit, my score shot up. When I got the loan it was 740-750, now it’s 770-790.  That gets me a better rate on any future loan.

I realized I’d learned a lot by having an emergency budget, and it went from a necessity to something of a game.  It became a challenge to trim costs.  I learned how to do minor things on my car; how to change the oil, then the transmission fluid – not sure I’ll make it up to brake pads.  I drive a paid-off ‘99 Prelude with 67,000 miles. I bought it in 2004 with a 5-year loan I paid off in 4. I’ll never take out an auto loan again, and will die without buying a new car – the math doesn’t work for me.  I was without TV for about 5 years, but I had a $9 Netflix subscription, high-speed internet, and the library.  My new roommate wanted TV, so I installed it, but he’s paying for it, and I might finally watch some football, but I can’t get into TV again even when I try. His TV install covered a $200 DSL upgrade fee that kept my bill the same but doubled my service speed.

I occasionally buy myself nice things – my big item this year is a Cutco forged knife set that I needed for a culinary program.  Last year it was a treadmill to replace my 20-year old exercise bike, and before that it was a cheap HDTV to replace my 25-year old TV. I use what works until it’s impracticable to keep it, and when replacing it, make sure it’ll a) last and b) get used.  I delay purchases of most things – I research it, look for pricing trends/deal cycles, and sometimes just let it hang as a bookmark or in my Amazon cart. If I still want something or feel I’ll use it when I remember to check it next, I’ll act.

I volunteered at a local community center regularly for a few years, the one that administered the IDA program. I knew most of the people working there, grew up with their kids. The center asked if I wanted to help with their foreclosure prevention program, so I did the training and became a counselor.  I make a modest return off each client, help the center earn income, and get to help people – an ideal second job.  That turned into an opportunity to help start a local teen court program at that center which I’m working on right now. It’ll be a $15k income bump if my budget gets funded.

I rented out my other bedroom. My roommate has raised my utility bill, but he pays my mortgage (or my Roth IRA, take your pick). The $8k homebuyer refund went back into my cash reserve, a portion of which went to replace the original HVAC system in my home. I ended up with $2k in rebates/refunds, even though my current system was still working. It bothered me to replace a working system, but I had incentive.

I don’t carry credit balances unless it’s silly not to, e.g. 0% financing, cash back programs.

My biggest weakness was restaurants, which also goes for most of my foreclosure clients. As a waiter I acquired a taste for good food, plus I was a 20-something man. My monthly grocery budget was $50, and my restaurant budget $500. Now it’s $150/$100 and I’m finding ways to cut it more while eating better food. The $100 is an entertainment expense: I wasn’t willing to give up some nicer meals or my favorite pub with friends.  I almost never drink; it’s expensive and I don’t need it to enjoy a night out.  The culinary classes will help, through better home cooking and potential future income if I wish.

I calculated the payback on the culinary degree based on my food costs. It’s rough, but I did it because I found the concept of payback on the $3k entertainment expense interesting.

I use prepaid cell phones – none of my friends notice, and I pay $15-20 a month. Nobody notices that my landline is Ooma and has already paid for itself. I keep it for local family, who like to talk.  My gas and electric bills are so low that the delivery charges are more than the usage portion. I replaced some bulbs with CFLs, I avoid ghost power draws, and I keep a handle on the air/heat.  I’m intrigued by some things like air-drying clothes and making my own detergent, but I haven’t jumped in – that’ll depend on cost and fun factor.  Soon I’ll share my wireless with my neighbors, and that should offset my monthly condo fees by $15-20. Another benefit of the speed upgrade.

Last year I went to Washington, D.C. with my parents. I paid for all but a few meals and a Segway tour.  I recommend train travel, by the way: it’s a vacation in and of itself.  (Ed. Note: Hear, hear.) The year before I went to Glacier National Park with friends, also by train. In September I’m going to Italy, spending a few days with my parents in Venice before they go to Slovenia, while I head south over a week toward Naples. I’m not paying for the $1k plane ticket (thanks Mom), but I took $1k from the vacation fund and donated it to the community center.  In a few weeks I’m hitting Vegas for the 7th consecutive year (Ed. Note: have fun.) I timed the cheapest Southwest tickets, and have a great hotel price I’m sharing.  I don’t gamble, (Ed. Note: ignore previous note) but I do like to eat well out there.  Next spring or fall I’m going to take a train for a week through Alaska, which I’m already budgeting for in SmartyPig.

My co-workers all make more than I do, though none of them are more than lower-middle class. They usually have 2 incomes and have no idea how I do it without putting it on a card.

They’re rarely interested in hearing how, either. I’ve come to realize that either people can’t imagine living on my budget and not buying stuff all the time (not that they’ve tried it), or that they’ll only change after hitting bottom, and even then that’s iffy (see my foreclosure clients.)

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Impressed? You should be. More next week.

**This post was featured in Festival of Frugality #246**

A Friday post? What gives?

 

Our heroine Hetty Green, looking exceptionally sexy for the photographer.

This morning, we heard from the FruBlogger at CESIDebtSolutions.org (it stands for Consumer Education Services, Inc.), who wanted to know how we developed the saving and spending habits that are now second nature. So, doing our part to spread the gospel of financial independence and hopefully saving you the trouble of making the same mistakes others made, here’s our questionnaire, answered by Greg. Enjoy.

What’s your “frugality story?” In other words, how and why did you
become frugal?

I’d recently graduated college and was resigned to spending the next few years living in a dismal little apartment and making subsistence wages en route to eventually establishing myself. I was astounded when I saw my classmates, whom I’d assumed were as poor as I was, buying cars and houses. I suddenly realized that all the nonchalant, “discretionary” spending I’d been doing had added up in a bigger way than I’d imagined. And that maybe I should look at my bank statements once in a while.


What, if anything, tempts you to overspend, and how do you resist?

Convenience. If something’s right in front of you, and easy to take possession of, it’s hard to think of reasons not to buy it. It can take a while to master, but discipline is the only way around this. It’s the equivalent of the recovering smoker not buying the cigarettes. (Of course, those folks have it relatively easy. They only have one item they have to avoid.)


What personal finance or frugality habits were the hardest for you
to adopt and why?

Forcing myself to examine my income and my net worth regularly. I’d always deposit my paychecks without ever checking the balances. Same deal when I used an ATM. I was always scared that the actual numbers would be lower than my estimates, which would depress me for the rest of the day. Also, I reasoned that my balances would seem to grow faster if I consciously ignored them. But in the real world, the opposite happens.


Have you ever taken frugality too far? How so?

Recycling a birthday gift for an ex-girlfriend was one I’d like to have back. Then again, she dumped me a week later and I ended up with the woman of my dreams, so I guess these things have a way of balancing out.


What resources (blogs, books, websites) would you recommend to
someone who’s newly frugal?

LenPenzo.com, a financial blog by a non-financial professional whose innate common sense remains uncompromised. SmartMoney, which boasts the clarity and insight that its parent, The Wall Street Journal, is famous for. (And of course, my new book, Control Your Cash: Making Money Make Sense.)